If you’re a bride-to-be who’s reading this, congrats!! If you’re anything like I was as a newly engaged woman a few years ago, you’re over the moon right now to marry your favorite person! Savor and celebrate that feeling as much as you can, you deserve it!
Not long after getting engaged though…that feeling of anxiety starts to creep in. You need to look for a venue, and a photographer, and a DJ, and pick a color palette, and decor, and find a hotel for everyone, and, and, and…the list seems to never end! Each decision you have to make turns into a handful of other smaller decisions. You want to make choices that make your families and friends happy, but also make YOU happy. That’s a lot of weight to carry, and that stress can easily start to wear on you!
Now, I don’t know when your wedding date is, or how long you have to plan your wedding. But if you’re reading this, you’re probably looking for ways to have a wedding that runs smoothly, looks beautiful, AND allows you to feel relaxed and able to soak up the excitement and gratitude of being in this amazing phase of life with the person you love.
Am I right? Then read on, my friend, because it all starts during the wedding planning process!
Give Yourself some TLC
Yep, I said it! Why? Because if you’re anything like most other people planning their wedding, you feel innundated with All The Things and are putting yourself last. Your physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual health probably all feel less important than all these decisions you have to make to have the wedding of your dreams. Because wedding planning has a deadline, but your health probably feels like it doesn’t.
Not to mention that if you’re constantly busy, people sometimes treat that as a badge of honor…like if we can tell our friends “I’m so busy!" that must mean that we’re doing something important, or we ARE important. I have news for you! You have value either way, so being busy doesn’t change that. However, it does affect your quality of life—Not just now, as you plan your wedding, but on your actual wedding day too! And beyond!
How would you feel over the next few months if you planned like crazy, had very little time to relax or do anything for yourself, and then your wedding day came and you never felt like you could soak up how amazing it was because you felt fried?
Now…how would you if you had time to plan your wedding AND take time just for yourself, you felt physically more relaxed and emotionally more calm and positive, and had the wedding day of your dreams too? Feels better, right? That’s what I want for you, and I believe that self-care is the ultimate way to make that happen!
What The Heck Is Self-Care?
Self-care is all about treating yourself with the same kindness and compassion that you would one of your closest loved ones. It can be hard to do if you were raised to be a high achiever, or a people pleaser, or you’re someone who struggles with healthy boundaries (that’s a lot of us). Putting your self-care first can feel like a negative or selfish thing to do, but I promise that when you choose to make it a priority, everyone around you benefits when you are your most grounded, rested, healthy self!
Self-care centers around all the different areas of your health: physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual (and anything else you feel is important). I have a free guide all about this that I’m getting ready to share with the world! It's full of basic tips for each kind of self-care to give you a “launch pad” to start from!
Stay tuned for that, but until then, I invite you to share in the comments what self-care means for you! What things do you love doing for yourself that help you feel at your best?